Balancing the Scales

Today, while trying to help a friend out of a sticky situation, I said some things that echoed back at me.  She was in an emotional bind; struggling to unscramble her feelings.  

I dug deep into my cupboard of lessons learned.  The first thing that came to mind is that we are all masters of our own outlook.  Any given situation can take on a whole new hue - if the spectacles we view it through are tinted just so.  

It's one of the few things in life we can take full ownership of - our Point of View.

She told me about all of the things not going right; of the things her life was missing.  Looking from afar, I knew she had gotten too close to see what really lie before her.  She had a blessed life - full of friends, love, laughter and health.  Along the line somewhere, her view had been obstructed. 

Sure she didn't have as much money as she'd like or the perfect job at the time...or even the perfect family.  But for everything she lacked...she had a surplus of so much else.

As I uttered those words - I spoke to myself contemporaneously. 

If we each look at our lives and count our blessings day to day...our perspective changes.  Rather than obsessing over the one or two things not going as planned - why not focus on all of the other things going incredibly right?  On all of the things many would be only so lucky to have?

Once you step outside of yourself and sit spiritually high above it all - you realize how little those seemingly big things really are.  Specks...really...in a long line of life.

The hurdles we climb only make getting to the other side that much more glorious.  Without the downs there can be no ups.  One without the other breeds pure numbness.  It's a Balance of the most ubiquitous kind.

If everything went perfectly as planned, we wouldn't experience the joy of achievement; or appreciate that which we want so badly.  

It's the not having, that makes having worth the while...

Sweet Dreams, 

Me

"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more.  If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." - Oprah Winfrey