Second Helping

All of the lessons I've learned in recent years and even months have served me well.

This past week, I was able to use the knowledge I've gained to help a dear friend in need.  It almost made the difficulties I've survived seem somewhat worthy.  I can't spare him the pain, but sharing my own experiences will hopefully soften the ride down what could be a rocky road.  

It reminded me of all the times I've said in desperation, tears falling down my face, "I'm so tired of learning lessons...why is this happening to me?  What have I done to deserve this?".  I know this is what he must be feeling. 

Since then (and I told him this), I've learned that sometimes we just need to relent...to let go of the anger and simply move on.  Holding on to the anger only makes it worse.  Negative attracts negative.

Often, we haven't yet learned what life is trying to teach us.  And more often than not...it boils down to this:  we've been ignoring that little voice inside that knows exactly what we really want and need. And then history just repeats itself...over and over again. Until we get it.

By mapping out my Sweet Dream - that voice is now loud and clear, and it won't take no for an answer.

Like a lot of people, I'd stopped living my life on the cause side...and instead was on the effect side.  Rather than living powerfully...I was surrendering as a Victim of unfortunate circumstance.  I handed over control - as though life were happening to me, rather than actually living my life.

I'd have those woe is me moments, wondering why life was fighting me so hard.  I was so tired of battling...I could hardly stand.  I had taken on the Victim role without even knowing it, when a Victim is the last thing I would ever want to be.

Once that was made clear to me with a little tough love...everything changed practically overnight.  My outlook changed, my actions changed and my faith in my own instincts changed.

If there's one thing I would drill into all my loved ones' heads....it would be - Never defy your instincts.  Ever, ever, ever.   When you stop trusting your inner compass...everything around you goes haywire.  However, once you zero in and find your balance, it all just falls into place.  It's all rather amazing.

That's what we tend to do.  We question our instincts.  Even if only for a heartbeat, it's enough to throw the whole train right off its tracks.  

Why?  Because in doubting ourselves...we aren't being true to ourselves.  We aren't trusting the one person who knows us best.  No one knows you, like you do.  And no one ever will.  

Maybe we need to remember that we are our own best ally.  We need to believe in ourselves and know that we are special and worthy of love and of all the great things life has to offer.  

When you start believing in you again, all your Sweet Dreams will start to come true.

Sweet Dreams, 

Me

"Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him." - Aldous Huxley